Today, it’s been about two weeks since I quit an office job for which I was supremely overqualified, in order to run my editorial and marketing businesses full time.
Two years ago, I lost a job I had been working in for 13 years, and a career that I had been building for 17 years.
My life has changed a lot, but I am supremely happy.
I stopped participating in the problems.
And more importantly:
I know what I value and what I am worth.
And I know that I can use those two things as my goalposts for the rest of my life.
It wasn’t easy. I was very close to giving up, many times on this journey. I still have trouble asking for the rate I know I’m worth from clients, but I’m working on that.
I was forced to make choices. Forced by the pain of not being respected or treated well, to find a better way for myself. And in being confronted by difficult, painful choices, I found myself, one by one, making them based on what would lead me to the life I wanted. And I found things turning out OK because, finally, I was really listening to what I needed in order to be happy.
I had – and am grateful for – a lot of help getting here. Absolutely. And part of ‘not participating in the problem’ included accepting – sometime even asking for – help. This was one of the hardest things for me to do.
What about you? What problems can you stop participating in?
What Is Joy?
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